Likewise all of the eCourses are on sale using the same code OR the links below!
Digital gifts are great for tiny house people, they take very little floor space ;-).
Part 1 Codes and Foundation Selection – http://bit.ly/1NbybOB
Likewise all of the eCourses are on sale using the same code OR the links below!
Digital gifts are great for tiny house people, they take very little floor space ;-).
Part 1 Codes and Foundation Selection – http://bit.ly/1NbybOB
Our little monkeys are doing great! Just a quick update…
Miles is growing like a weed, he put on 4.5 pounds in his first month (that’s a lot!). He’s rocking the double chin and loves tummy time. He’s about as different from his sister right now as two kids can be. He gets over stimulated easily by bright lights and loud noises (like his mom and dad). He gets cold much easier than his sister ever did. He’s very calm and chill most of the time, he rarely cries at all! I think he is actually a better sleeper than Hazel was and she has been a ‘sleep through the night’ girl from the day we brought her home. My biggest worry is that he is too calm and too quiet. Yeah, I made it this far through two kids without any awful horror stories, I am the mom others want to slap. I make no apologies but I count my lucky stars! I still think he looks more like my side of the family but certain features (nose and lips) are definitely from his dad. He is adored by all.
Miss independent, I mean Hazel is a star at ‘school’. She still does daycare, half days four days a week. We started at twice a week but once Miles was born bumped it up to four because she LOVES is and it was barely any more, cost-wise. AND it means I get that much more one on one time with Mister (Miles’s nickname). We both (James and I) feel a little guilty that Hazel got so much one on one and Miles is forced to share, so the half days is a good compromise and Hazel comes back ready to show us everything she’s learned. She knows a ton of sign language which we’ve never taught her. She knows a bunch of kiddo songs, LOVES Five Little Monkeys and is the best dancer in class! She tries every word we say out now and is starting to use sentences, short ones like ‘shoe help please’. She said thank you to our waitress, all by herself when she brought out our food. Proud moment! She absolutely loves her brother even if she has to share attention… she seems to be very understanding when I can’t snuggle her because I have to feed Miles… hopefully that continues.
Denver dog is loving our new couch, that seems to be the highlight of his world these days :). He hangs out with James during the day since James is mostly working from home,it makes it easier on me so there is no growling and waking up the babies with his dream barks and when the mailman comes by…
Pretty much we are all hunkering down for the winter and getting ready to put up the Christmas tree… oh, and Thanksgiving :). We did recently build a bigger couch for the tiny house, it’s not as pretty as the other but it’s comfy, I can throw some pillows on it and snuggle up with the kiddos. It’s a good move for winter! $65 well worth it so far! And Denver likes it, he can spread out better :). I hope you all have the happiest of holidays!
Where do you put all the baby ‘stuff’? You can’t imagine how many times I have been asked this.
(I have to start this out by saying that our families choices are in no way a criticism of any other choices, we all do what is best for us!)
My short answer… ‘babies don’t really need much ‘stuff'” (usually met with scoffs and eye rolls…).
It’s PARENTS who need that baby stuff – We’ve just decided, instead of rolling with the status quo, we will alter our life so that we don’t need ‘all that stuff’.
Sure, there are times it would be super awesome to have a rocker to use and give my arms a break. There are not enough of those times to justify using that square footage for a rocker though. There are certainly not enough of those times to justify getting a different place with a bigger payment and more maintenance just to accommodate that rocker. Or that other stuff for that matter. Besides, it’s kind of nice to just be able to rock my kids, even if not always convenient. Raising littles in the tiny house is not a decisions I feel like I will ever regret, that means something. I couldn’t say that about working full time.
One of the things ‘they’ don’t really tell you until after you have that stuff and only if you go out of your way to learn more… that ‘stuff’ isn’t usually that good for your baby or their development anyway. If you’re like James and I, you go to Babies R Us and look at all the things and get so overwhelmed and start to feel like you’ll be a terrible parent because you don’t know what half of the things are or what they are for but since ‘they’ make it, it MUST be good for the baby, babies MUST need it… otherwise why make it!? We are all made to feel like we should probably get that thing, all those things, so that our babies have the best shot at being a successful human being…
But wait! They didn’t have most of that stuff 60 years ago. People still survived 60 years ago… heck, people might have actually been better people 60 years ago!
It’s a trick! Kind of…
You’re a person who buys things (so am I), of course they aren’t going to tell us that having your baby stand up in a walker before they are ready may slow or inhibit their ability to learn how to walk on their own naturally… They won’t outright tell you that baby crib bumpers cause more deaths per year than getting baby hands and legs stuck between the bars. ‘They’ don’t want you to feel bad about that decision, then you won’t buy it. It is adorable to watch our babies do everything we can watch them do, and sometimes it’s really handy! In reality baby stuff is not all bad, like everything there are pros and cons. Usually baby things are designed to keep babies quiet and contained, which for the vast majority of folks is paramount. There is a lot of stuff to do in the world and we live in a society where that is hard to get away from that. And it’s hard to do it all if you have a crying kiddo about.
We have houses that need cleaned, lawns that need maintained, food that needs cooked, possessions that needs taken care of and relationships (other than with baby) that need nurtured. Oh, and sleep. None of that just go away when you have a baby. Baby contraptions really do become a need – unless you go well out of your way to change that. It isn’t safe to just let your kiddo chill out on the floor if you can’t be right there with them. In my case I have a large dog that could step on them, a sibling that could (and probably would) smother her brother with kisses, literally. There are stairs and choking hazards and things that are very dangerous. Unless you can stop doing everything in the rest of your life and sit and watch your kiddo they really are best kept a bit contained.
What tiny house living gives to our family:
All of that adds up to more time with my littles developing their curiosity, their confidence and making memories (mostly for me at this point). Right now, and for the next several years, that is my priority and this tiny house helps very much with that.
I am truly grateful for my good fortune, I know it is a rare gift to be in the position our family is in. These are just one persons thoughts but no matter what the reasons are I hope that everyone can feel as fortunate in their life.
Coming soon (because this post got long enough as it is…)
My minimalist baby needs list and
My thoughts to the ‘your kids will be embarrassed’ and such critics…
Hopefully this isn’t too depressing, it’s not meant to be. We have recently been working though a lot of deep topics that come about when you are faced with your own mortality. James’s father, Steve, passed away recently, my grandfather, Carl, did as well. I think it is natural to find yourself in a deeply introspective pause in order to try to make sense of those sorts of things. Both were great men, sadly I found out a lot about both only through their obituaries, I really wish I would have known more while they were here. I feel like I had a really close relationship with my grandpa but with almost 60 years of difference there is bound to be some details we don’t get to discuss’in! The same goes with my brief path’s crossing with Steve.
As sad as it is that I didn’t get to know all the gritty details while they were here I sort of feel that that is ok. It is kind of cool to read some ones whole entire life in a summary, it sure makes them seem like a badass! It’s kind of more awesome that they didn’t see their accomplishments as extraordinary, it was just a part of them, not something bragged about. They were both pretty extraordinary though and worth bragging about. Luckily they both leave behind a legacy of family, now we just have to boast about them on their behalf! And we will :).
It all get’s me to thinking though, what would my eulogy sound like? What do I want it to sound like? Am I writing my life in the way I want and accomplishing what I want? What is my legacy?
Turns out I have sort of written about this before in a previous blogging life. Before MiniMotives existed I had a blog called MeMotives. I wrote about my life and my intentions, part of that is how I want to live and be remembered. It was my way of sorting through life’s things, no surprise right around the time my other grandfather passed away several years ago. Going back through those posts, what I have noticed is how helpful those intentions I set have been for me in meeting my goals over the years.
Through those posts I made a personal mission statement which has been a guiding beacon:
“To love life, live honestly and humbly, and actively create a better environment for my family and community with the optimism and passion that all things are possible.”
Since then, things have changed. That was before I had a partner, before I had kids, before I designed or built my tiny house and quit my job/career(?). Building this tiny house was never something I set out to do for any reason other than my own education (with construction) and to save me some cash for a couple years. So much more has been accomplished with it though, it has changed my path in several ways, it has given me a platform I couldn’t have had on other paths. It has changed things for me in ways I couldn’t have predicted and it continues to change things for me personally and professionally in unexpected way. With the addition of these recent changes I figure it is time to re-evaluate life and my (and our) goals and my bucket list.
While there are no conclusions in this particular post, that is what I have been doing in the background here while also pouring myself and my time into our new little one, Miles, and our, now seemingly much bigger and more mature, little one, Hazel.
Breakthroughs will be coming soon :). I hope you are all well!
Just a few points I want to make about ‘going tiny’:
There IS value in hiring labor, a lot of value. Everyone has different influences on their tiny house decisions, cost/budget is only one of those. Your timeline may drive you to make less cost effective decisions, or any number of other factors, that is ok.
He made it! 3 days before his due date! My midwife was out of town at a conference again so it seemed the appropriate time to go into labor :). This is the second kid with the same midwife and she didn’t deliver either of my babes! It is quite alright though, she was great for both pregnancies and I had the same stand in midwife who delivered both Hazel and Miles. Never saw her but to deliver both kiddos, but she was great at talking me through everything both times. It’s so nice to have someone to make you more comfortable and relaxed while giving birth to little people. I appreciate both of my midwifes :).
I had been having contractions for several days and HOPING things would get going soon… turns out being pregnant is still uncomfortable, ALL the time! At 3:30 I started doing dishes, the LAST thing in the house left to clean. Almost instantly contractions got a lot rougher and were 2 minutes apart. I let it go for an hour to see if they would keep going then emailed James that he should probably come home, we might be going to the hospital soonish… He came right home and tried to get me out the door instantly but I wasn’t convinced I was really in labor yet so we waited, drank some water and kept track of things. At 5:15 I decided we should probably go check and see, so we went to the hospital. At 5:30 I was checked in and not leaving until I had the baby :). At that point I was at 6 cm dilated and the nurses were impressed I wasn’t screaming already :). Labor is a different kind of pain than just ‘ouch’… it is lots of ouch too but… it’s just different, it’s productive pain so it’s easier for me to work through mentally, and it comes in waves, so I could relax in between and just trust the process would be over soon enough!
It was a pretty fast process really, check in at 5:30, by 10:00 we were cooing to our new little baby boy! Most of the time was spent joking around between contractions and generally having a good time (weird to say for a labor story…). I would be lying if I said there wasn’t a moment I considered letting them put lots of drugs in me for labor but ultimately I know that can slow down the process and can put unnecessary stress on the baby, if it was necessary I wouldn’t have hesitated but since it wasn’t I opted to try for another natural delivery with no drugs, it worked well the first go round, why not go for two? It was rough but I am sure it made the difference between his birthday being the 1st or the 2nd, and I am glad to have had a shorter labor (with only 11 minutes of active ‘pushing’ :)).
We opted this time to just let my folks know so they could pick up Hazel (conveniently on their way home from work!). No one else knew until after Miles was born, that way there wasn’t added pressure of people waiting in the waiting room or walking in the delivery room. It was weird to be without Hazel for the night but she had a blast at grandma and grandpas.
Miles was exactly the same length as his sister (20.5″) and weighed 9 ounces more (8 pounds 10 ounces). Apparently I make big (healthy!) babies :). We got to do everything just as we wanted, I have two great labor stories and I hope to never be one of those people who like to offer all the worst case scenarios and horror stories to newly expecting mothers. If I ever get caught doing that I give you all permission to slap me. Labor isn’t always bad, it’s a pretty amazing process not to be feared!
SINCE BIRTH… Miles has been keeping us busy, he’s had some reflux issues that he seems to have worked through, the first several days he kept throwing up everything he ate and had a lot of fluid in his stomach. He lost 5% of his weight in the hospital but today at his 12 day check-up he was up almost a pound from birth so we seem to have no issues feeding :). He’s in the 90+ percentiles on height and weight. He doesn’t have a tongue tie like Hazel did so feeding has been much easier on me. He has been the quietest little guy, he sleeps all day and wakes up around 7pm and is in and out through the night but rarely wakes me up, he just looks around :). We’re pretty smitten, Hazel adores him, I think he must have a raw spot on his forehead from all of her kisses.
She has had some adjustments to make but seems to be rolling with it pretty easily. About three weeks before he was born we started putting her in ‘school’ (daycare) for two half days a week. Mostly because she is a social butterfly and really wanted to hang out with the other kiddos (they go on walks right by our house). She is LOVING school, we may bump up to four half days a week just so I can spend some one on one time with Miles and she really likes it. We got a stack of her art projects and it is pretty cool to see all the things she is up to. It’s hard to drop her off for the day but nice to know she really likes it and gets to learn and do so much!
I have the feeling that these two kids of mine are going to be COMPLETE opposites. Hazel is a very strong willed individual with a lot of opinions… a ‘bossy pants’ some might say. She’s completely extroverted and a social butterfly. I think Miles will be more sensitive and easy going… time will tell but it’s been pretty cool to see their little personalities coming out!
We went shopping for Halloween costumes, I had this big plan that Hazel would be a cowgirl, Denver would be her pony and Miles could be a cow… Hazel had absolutely zero interest in being a cowgirl, no matter how many boots and hats she saw… what she wanted… er demanded, was Wonder Woman. She saw the skirt, grabbed it and threw itt in the cart. Went I put it back on the shelf she very calmly said ‘no’, grabbed it again and put it in the cart… I didn’t give in at the moment… but… this year we have Wonder Woman and superman… Denver can be bat dog (pictures coming soon). It cracks me up how opinionated Hazel is at 18 months, i don’t think I’ve ever had that strong of opinions, just makes me laugh, all the time!
Lets see, other than all the family shinanigans… Guillaume and Jenna fron Tiny House Giant Journey published their video tour of our place, it’s way better than any of my boring ole tours
Here are some images in no particular order:
No baby yet! It’s driving me nuts, I was sure with Hazel that labor was imminent for three weeks, we are about on week three with this little one too… I was hoping by the time I did my next family update there would be a new addition but here I am twiddling my thumbs…
I’ve been having contractions for quite a while but nothing serious or real yet… My due date is still 6 days away so I am not overdue yet, I’ve determined I just have a couple ‘squares’ for kids who wait for their actual due date to be born… little rule followers! You would think a blood moon would have helped!
Hazel has started ‘school’ twice a week for half days. I really wasn’t planning on putting her in daycare but we have one two doors down the street and they walk by every so often and she gets SOOO excited to see them… we thought we would get her in there for the social aspect… because we have concerns about her being a bully :). Raise a baby with a Great Dane in a tiny house and they learn to just push things out of their way! She definitely rules the roost with Denver but seems to have better social skills, at least nicer ones with other humans… She’s a little awkward at times :). Several times we have witnessed her playing with other kids and then it will get quiet and they just stare at each other and she will go in for an awkward hug, she learned that from her mom! It’s adorable though! The first day I dropped her off and it was total chaos and she cried and I cried and it was so hard! When we picked her up she was still crying and they said that she didn’t smile once all day…
The second day she was very excited to go, she cracked a smile and made better friends. When we went to get her at noon the second day she saw James and I come in the door, looked right at us, said ‘NOPE!’ and walked outside! She did MUCH better :). Every day since then has been about the same, she is enjoying ‘school’
She has quite the vocabulary of both words and noises, she knows almost all of her body parts, animal sounds and will fake a lot of emotions. We ask for her angry face and it looks about like the image above :). I think she is moderately aware that he will have a sibling very soon, she’s seen all the diagrams at the doctor’s office and proudly announces baby to the poster with the creepy cut away belly and then grabs my belly… Still, I have no idea how I am going to handle two kids! It seemed like a good idea to have them 18 months apart! I think I thought she would be a little less ‘baby’ though! ha! We will survive, I’m positive… just not sure how yet…
Mr. T(iny) is a constant mover! He’s been nothing but really healthy at every visit, he’s head down, engaged active and getting pretty tough (right into my rib cage!). I had my last scheduled check up today, REALLY thought I wouldn’t need one scheduled out that far… turns out he’s still there, doing his thing! I’m ready for his arrival but not pushing things, he will come when he comes, we’re pretty excited to get to meet him! We’ve got everything all ready for him to make his debut! Just a waiting game now!
I hustled to get my eCourses done before he made his debut and succeeded! This was my effort to put together ALL the info I know about tiny houses for others. I was so extremely nervous to release it, you never know when things are going to be an epic failure and it’s tough not to think the worst… I have gotten some REALLY nice reviews so far though! They have been out just over a week and I have FIVE 5 star reviews and some REALLY nice words accompanying them! I can’t tell you how giddy it makes me to hear that someone else feels like I didn’t waste their time! I REALLY hope they would be beneficial so it’s great to hear feedback saying they were! Some of the nice words:
I have been researching off and on for months come to find out I could’ve just waited for Macy to release her expansive knowledge on tiny houses!! Everything is super informative, very detailed, things I didn’t even know I needed to know I learned about! I love the step by step lectures of all the important things you need to know that would otherwise take a lot of time to sift through article and article! Very well done! …
… Thank you Macy! For always being there for every question and person and for being such an inspiration for another woman who just wants to build her own little oasis her damn self.
Excellent, Informative and Wonderfully Presented
Where to start? I can’t say enough great things about this part of this course. Macy does a great job of covering the “unexciting” specifics that you need to know in order to accomplish your “dream” of building and living in a Tiny House!
I consider this a “must” for anyone who is intrigued by the wonder of this movement. Too many times, individuals are enamored by the hype and then jump in and find themselves “over their head” and quit.
A great place to start and hopefully see how all the details are important in order to build a safe and secure permanent living structure. Great job, Macy!!
Seriously happy with how that is going, I never intended to put out eCourses but with James’s encouragement I did, I am stoked at the process and the reception so far! If you are interested you can find them HERE, I really do hope they answer the big questions and of course I am around to help answer anything they may miss!
Denver Dog stopped his hunger strike, weird dude stops eating when its too hot or too cold. He’s probably put on 15 pounds in the last three weeks, thankfully, and doesn’t look malnourished anymore! I found some tricks to get him to eat his food when he doesn’t want to (he likes the EXPENSIVE canned dog food… the cheap stuff will not do! )
Here are some of the family outings since the last family update, in no particular order: