I have been hearing lots of guesses as to “why people move ‘so soon’ out of their tiny house”. I cringe anytime a thread pops up in Tiny House People making guesses as to why ‘so and so’ people moved out of the house that was built on ‘x’ tiny house show. The comments range anywhere from curious to full on critical judgments claiming that ‘they missed the whole point of the tiny house movement!’
The latest one I read specifically called me out “Macy Miller still lives in her home with two kids, but I think she is the rarity.” Now, I was a bit proud to be a standard to show that it IS possible to live tiny BUT the only difference between me and all the others criticized in there is that I am still in my tiny house…
Before you laugh and say ‘well, ya, duh!’ understand that the reason I say that is because I am NOT different from those others. I am not opposed to moving on with life if that is what makes sense for us. My tiny house is a tool that enables my lifestyle, not something that I dictate my lifestyle around. I strongly feel that that is the exact way it should be! Even though I am constantly introduced as ‘that tiny house girl’ to others I refuse to let myself be defined by something as insignificant as my house!
For now the house is still working for us but no, this house is not the only place we will ever live. I don’t yet know when we will be moving out, I don’t yet know why but I don’t see us having grand kids here either. Not because it’s impossible or because it would even be hard but because I am Macy, life never stays that consistent for me, nor do I want it too! We change, we adapt and we grow. Everyone does!
I think tiny houses impact anyone who cares to think even a little deeper about the subject. You may never ‘live tiny’ but I am guessing you will take a piece of the idea with you and find ways to apply that in your own life. That means something! For some people that is enough! That is ok!
Why does it matter that anyone moves out of their tiny house? Does it matter to you when someone moves out of their regular house? Unless you are that specific person it is impossible to understand all the intricacies of the choice anyway. Frankly, people deserve more privacy than they are often given when they make one of those choices! If they don’t want to be forthcoming then just feel free to assume ‘life happened and it no longer made sense for them to continue living tiny’. That is enough of an answer.
There is absolutely no shame in tiny houses being a step in life rather than a destination. Or a part of an equation rather than the whole answer. I may even move out some day and then move back in later, who knows! Life is weird like that, we all make the best choices we can make given our specific set of circumstances. I can tell you one thing for sure, I will never be happy in standard housing again.
Here are the details as I see them:
- Tiny houses ARE a valid choice.
- It’s not hard to live tiny.
- It’s not for everyone.
- Life changes over time. That’s ok.
- Time is relative, what is fast for you might be slow for someone else and visa versa!
- Your reasons for going tiny are probably not the same as the next guy over, don’t expect the results to be either.
- Sometimes people just want the experience. That’s ok.
- Zoning is tricky still, we’re working on that as a whole.
- Reality TV isn’t usually ‘real’.
It took me 8 months of living tiny to be out of debt. We have since had years to save enough money for our next project. We aren’t quite sure what that will be so we will just keep saving and exploring until something makes sense. It took 8 months for me to live life on my terms, rather than living to pay some random set of bills. One day ‘my terms’ will dictate I move out of the tiny house that certainly won’t be a failure. It will just be us being ready to move on to our next success story! I could have been very happy moving out of my tiny house 8 months after moving in, my goals were accomplished faster than expected. We’re still happy here though, so we stay.
I will urge those getting wrapped up in ‘why other people do some things, instead of other things’ to focus instead on their own journey. Figure out what makes sense for you. Then do it!
That’s the key, make a plan and then act!